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LOVE TEST
Are your ready for love and an everlasting relationship? Before you dive headfirst into shallow water and break your neck, test yourself first to see if you're REALLY Prepared.
Satan steals love more than any other one thing, so be sure your relationship is secured in God's love before a committment is made.
It is humanly impossible to fall in love! We fall in love with the eruption of our emotions, but not with the other person, which is not the true essence of love. Falling for this mockery takes us on a roller coaster ride that has an abrupt and painful ending, which is a very foolish undertaking.
When we are delivered into the hands of emotional discord, love is removed in exchange for fear, distrust, unfaithfulness and regret; and we are left to dwell in the earthshaking tempest of our deluge.
Infatuation is indeed and electrifying feeling, but it cannot endure the pressures of the world for any length of time. For its merely an emotion and emotions are not reality, because they quickly change.
Impetuously, they take us to the highs of exhilaration, then drop us to the lowest of lows of depression. This emotional, inflaming state of infatuation will change from excitement, hope, happiness and perceived love, to fear, anger and grief. It will leave you confused, bitter and defeated.
Usually we go through a series of infatuations before we settle down, for the enlivened sensations of a sexual encounter seems to be filled with love. But these desires overpower our dedication to Christ so we fail. They are simply feelings that have overreacted.
Thus they lead us down the path of broken hearts and dreams and self-doubt. Perhaps we can fool ourselves momentairly into believing these feelings are love, but emotions are fickle and unstable, so they will flicker, fizzle and die out. Infatuation is not love so it cannot last, therefore love never was.
Infatuations are filled with foolish and unreasonable passions that prompt only sudden moments of pleasure. For our energy rises above its normal capacity level, but since it cannot endure the heights of acceleration, it drops abruptly. Its spastic sensations hang us up in a delayed state of mind and cause a nervous reaction, and blocks love from entering.
When the heart is touched by love, however, energy gradually rises and stays within its normal capacity level, then lowers to a gentle and agreeable stage. It swings softly, never agitating. Love move harmoniously, rhythmically, like a pendulum. Unlike infatuation that rides for the thrill of speed and rapid twists and turns.
Once our yearning for passion is controlled, loves imposter "infatuation" will be exposed and its mockery will be removed. Then love can enter and a commitment can be made. Only through commitment can we maintain and strengthen our relationships. Love cannot begotten without a definite commitment, because love equals commitment.
Love is not an emotion, its a committment! If you are determined to make a lifelong commitment and cast down everything that interferes, then perhaps you are ready to walk through the doors of love. Until then, save yourself the agony of defeat.
Taking responsiblity for the course of action that love demands of us, only then is love able to grow. And the longer a commitment is preserved, the stronger and more enduring the bond becomes. Commitment locks and secures our relationships together, so love cannot fail or resist. It locks out everything that would prevent love from rooting and growing, which provides security, trust and loving affection.
Committing ourselves to the one we love binds the control of outside influences, which gives access from one level reach of navigable love to another. It guarantees that our love will remain completely secure against injury and loss.
Love does not suddenly or unexpectedly. It grows and growth takes time. On the other hand, infatuation is hasty and is formed by a quick and impulsive decision. Thus before committing yourslelf to another, be sure there is a mutual understanding, compatible beliefs, maturity, trust and freedom of the souls.
If you're not absolutely sure, stand still! Don't jump into anything suddenly or rashly. Move slowly, at a gradual pace, or you may find yourself buried in a lifetime of agony and defeat.
Infatuations all-absorbing passions cause uncontrollable sexual behavior. These deceiving passions overwhelm, then our heart and soul is lain bare to a stranger. Impulsive sex overrides communication, destroys intimacy, and conflicts with moral ethics. It wars against the Spirit, because it disregards God and opposes our innate principals of right conduct.
"This is the will of God, that you should obstain and shrink from all sexual vise. That each one of you should know how to possess (control, manage) his own body, not (to be used) in the passions of lust like the heathens, who are ignorant of the true God and hav eno knowldedge of His will." (I Thessalonians 4:3-5)
Being ignorant of love and falling for infatuation, the heart is left vacant and shattered, the mind confused. Sexual intercourse outside of marriage is a forbidden fruit, and those who choose to dwell in its decay will eat its debris.
When we allow another to use our body for self-satisfaction, there are consequences to pay. When we fail to take control over our body and let satan use it in lustful and passionate ways, babies are born out of wed-lock, we open ourselves up for disease, and lives are shattered.
Sorrow and suffering is overtaking the world and crushing the spirit. Disease is spreading rampantly and infesting the innocent, yet we pursue diligently our perverseness. When irresponsible we cast away our soul for sensual gratification and destroy our lives and the lives of those we infest.
God commanded that we control, possess and manage our own bodies. This command is simply to save us from the ravage and torture satan instills when we choose this ulcerated way of life. Everyone has been given the choice of life or death, and when we choose to defy God's wise counsel, we will pay a horrible price for our foolishness.
Infatuation is a fleeting, romantic attachment and possesses with a driving sexual hunger. Ego rules this satrical exploitation with its cunning, self-seeking mind games. Consequently, it forbids love from entering and destroys the value of human existance. It lacks maturity and good sense when we choose to use another for our sexual pleasures.
No one is exempt from infatuation, because our ego has so cleverely distorted and twisted love that an entire society marries and divorces from mistaking loves true identity.
Then the lonely and wounded hearted go forth, drawn to infatuation, the sensitive and tender. Unhealed, they search for love and move speedily into the arms of another, taking with them their damaged self-worth. Infatuation lurks in the shadows and attacks and captures, and we fall prey for short-lived affairs.
Going forth blindly in search of a relationship with a broken heart is pure selfishness. For we are searching for consolation, not for love. Once the heart is healed, however, then we can receive and give true love, and spare ourselves and another the heartbreak of defeat. We then can go forth in love and present our vulnerabilities, which is neccessary for love, without the fear of being used.
Therefore I urge you to walk slowly in your search for love and let God walk beside you. For He said, "I (the Lord) will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go: I will counsel you with My eyes upon you." (Psalm 32:8)
Let Him preserve you from touble, and pray to Him before the waters overflow, and He will make your thoughts and plans effective. He will look upon you from His dwelling place and fashion your heart and lead you by way of His great power.
Without the love of God enveloped in your heart there can be no love, because God is Love. That's where love comes from...You cannot give or receive love any other way. Without God, you are destined for defeat.
Greater love hath no men than this
1. Explain your definition of love.
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2. Explain your definition of infatuation.
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3. Do you recognize the difference?
4. Are you letting your emotions rule your relationship, or God?
5. Is fear controlling your decisions, preventing you from creating a wonderful, everlasting realtionship?
6. Are you searching for the smooth easy going swing of love, or the passions and highs of infatuation?
7. Are your intentions upright and honest in your pursuit for love?
8. Are you ready for a selfless life of giving, sharing, compromise and negotiation?
9. Are you mature enough to make a commitment, turning aside all that seeks to steal love?
10. Are you prepared to build up the one you loves confidence and appreciate his good qualities, releasing all critisism?
11. Are you ready to listen attentively when your beloved speaks, and give compassion and understanding?
12. Are you mature enough to keep his/her secrets confidential, appreciating that they trusted you enough to confide in you?
13. Are you ready to give the one your soul loves special attention, putting them first before your friends and others.
14. Are you ready to put his/her needs first, before your own?
15. Are you willing to give your mate the space he/she needs to grow into the person God created him/her to be?
16. Can you make quality time for nurturing your relationship, or will your activities, job and friends come first?
17. Are you willing to watch your tounge so you'll not hurt your lovers feelings, speaking not your mind because you care less?
18. Are you ready to participate in the things your mate desires, although they differ from yours?
19. Are you ready to seek the full fledged power of love?
20. Are you ready to put God first above and beyond all else in your life, so True Love can spring forth and endure?
God has given us a precious gift of love and marriage, to honor and to cherish till death do us part. So come into His garden and gather sweet words and eat the richest of love, by taking time every day to nurture your love in unique and special ways.
If your love is left on the back burner, satan will char its remains.
Love comes naturally without emotional disturbances of any kind. So take it slow and easy, and when you think you've found your hearts desire, be deceived not by infatuation.
If the water is warm, wet one toe first then get back on the beach and wait. True love endures time and time is absolutely neccessary for bonding effectively, and its definitely worth the wait.
Let your loving Father go before you on your path to love, and let Him be your fortress. Do not step without consulting Him first, then listen to His voice and ask that He cause you to hear.
Look forward to your lovers arrival and keep watching with absorbed admiration, then, "Go our early to the vineyards and see whether the vines have budded, whether the grapes blossoms have opened, and whether the pomegranates are in bloom. There I shall give you my love." (Song of Solomon 7:12).
When you are in the eyes of your loved one to be respected and allowed to be at ease; when the fruit is ripe and everything is altogether lovely, you will begin your life of sweet companionship. You will come together at the wedding and vow your love, then go to your waiting home upon the mountain of spices together. There you shall consumate your love.
Note:
If you have undergone several bad relationships or marriages, its time to sit down and take a good look at what you are doing to yourself. God hates quarreling, separation and divorce, so please consider your spirit before you begin searching again.
Encompass yourself in God's love and find your peace and love from within. Come forth and meet God and let Him share with you and delight in you and be His intimate friend. That He may keep you from the adventurous who flatters with and makes smooth his/her words. For in your vulnerability, if you hasten foolishly amidst the world for love, passions will pierce and inflame your vitals and cost you your eternal life.
Love is not a toy, I guarantee it is nothing to play with. For every seed you plant in the ground either grows into a beautiful thriving flower, or like a weed that will eventually choke you to death. So be very careful in your search for love, that all games are cast aside so love is able to grow and endure.
May God bless you in your search for love! It is He who will grant you the desires of your heart. If the relationship comes from Him you will have a joyous heart, and the two of you will have wondrous life together.
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