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When we love, what do we fear? Why do we fear? Such a joyous emotion, love is, and yet, somewhere inside of us all, there are still fears. Our feelings of elation and happiness tend to always reflect some form of fear, no matter how strong we love. Sometimes, the stronger we love, the more fear is present. The proverbial "double-edged sword", so to speak. But in retrospect, this fear can serve as a foundation. It can be a basis for building. It can help us come to grips with our intricate personalities, so that we may share ourselves with others. When we ask ourselves why we fear, there are many things that come to mind. Fears of losing our loved one, fear of commitment, of heartbreak, fear of loving another, or even fear of being loved. One thing we must all understand is that fear is an instinct of survival. It is embedded within us like any other emotion is. How we choose to use our emotions is entirely up to us. Fear can be used to secure the anchors within each of us…the anchors that hold us accountable to others and ourselves. From there, fear can change to love. We fear due to insecurities that come from many places. Coming to the realization of these fears and identifying the source is the key toward using this unproductive emotion to our advantage. The things we fear can only be calmed from within us. They can only be resolved when we resolve the issues within ourselves regarding the reasons we fear. The feeling of resolution can be one of the most spiritually uplifting experiences we, as humans, can have. There is no key or method to which we can change the conditions and reasons we are afraid. The only thing we can do is identify and become one with our doubts. Confronting our souls when we are ready to do so…using the source of our fears to better us as individuals, thus making us more capable of loving and of being loved. Throughout life, there are always times when we must reflect upon ourselves and ask if we have truly achieved being who we want to be. It has nothing to do with status, money, or material things. It has only to do with personal riches such as inner peace and love. Being insecure with who we are can bring about much self-doubt and many feelings of fear. If we choose not to deal with these negative feelings, our personal riches begin to dwindle. By understanding, confronting, and coping with the things we are afraid of, we grow and become more capable of loving. Fear and doubt go hand in hand. Fear can become love…but doubts, however, when accompanied by fear, can hamper our capabilities to love and be loved. Once inside a place filled with fear and doubt, it is difficult to see clearly. Feelings of love become muddled. In order to have a clear view of us, we must step outside and look in upon our true selves. Only then can we give our hearts to someone else, because it is then that we know what it is we are giving to another. Fear, as with any other emotion, is a tool. It is a tool of attitude, as is happiness, sadness, and anger. How we choose to use these tools is only our choice. Whether we use our emotions in a positive or negative way, our attitudes are greatly affected. We must always remember that life is a constant challenge to better ourselves. It is a contest of emotions. In this contest, we must prepare our strategies well, ensuring that love always takes first place, and not fear. We must always remember the reasons behind the things we fear, and not let it overcome us. Use the tool of fear to strengthen our love for others and ourselves. With this love, we become one with our universe, our God, our souls. Contact me at: Four20nik@aol.com

`Fear To Love, Fear To Grow`

`-by Nikki M`

`Fear To Love, Fear To Grow` `-by Nikki M`