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Lady Busters Anonymous
Greetings!
I am a born-again Christian who was once very much into fantasy violence against women. I would get off on pictures, videos, and stories about women being hit in the crotch, belly, and breasts. Weird, huh? Anyway, with God's help and by God's grace, I have come to see how unhealthy, unwholesome, and destructive this particular fetish is, and to be given the victory over it. As a byproduct, I have come to more greatly appreciate not only the great beauty of women (on every level), but also the great gift that women are to this old world--especially to men.
I created an online support group where guys and gals who are addicted to real and/or fantasy violence against women can come for prayer, fellowship, and mutual support. To visit my group, click on
There are numerous recovery programs currently available to help people deal with addictions to drugs, alcohol, sex, etc. They can be classified as faith-based or secular, twelve step or non-twelve step. My former wife and both her parents obtained victory over alcohol using the faith-based, twelve step program developed by Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). In my opinion, the program most likely to succeed for lady busters is a faith-based, twelve step program--but with a MUCH greater emphasis upon a personal relationship with God through saving faith in Jesus Christ. Perhaps the best example of that type of program--and the program which I personally recommend--is Christians in Recovery. For more information about that program, click on
I believe the MOST IMPORTANT step you can take in overcoming ANY addiction is to accept Jesus into your heart as Lord and Savior. Once you do that, He becomes your divine ally, helper, and enabler on the road to recovery. Jesus said in John 8:36, "If the Son, therefore, shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed." It was, more than anything else, the Lord's direct intervention in my life, mind, and heart that delivered me from my addiction to fantasy violence against women. In my opinion, it was no less a miracle than His healing the sick, raising the dead, and feeding the five thousand. To read my Christian testimony, click on
Every now and then, someone will ask me a question like this: "OK, I can see where real violence against women is wrong, but what about fantasy violence? What's the harm in that?"
My answer to that query is this: "What's wrong with standing in a pool of gasoline?"
Now, let me explain.
I wondered the very same thing--about real versus fantasy violence--until one day the Lord gave me a sign that fantasy violence against women is also wrong. What was the sign? Well, picture this scenario:
You pull into a gas station and stop in front of a gas pump. You get out of your car, open your car's gas cap, take the hose from the gas pump, put the nozzle into your gas tank line, and then press the lever on the nozzle. You watch the guage on the gas pump register gallon after gallon. Another car pulls into the gas station and the driver points to the ground on which you are standing. You look down and, lo and behold, you are standing in a pool of gasoline, ready to ignite at the smallest spark! What happened? You did not put the nozzle on the right place.
That was exactly my experience when I asked the Lord to show me--in clear, unequivocal terms--whether, in fact, fantasy violence against women was wrong. Never, in all of my over fourty years of driving experience, had I ever had an experience like that, nor--since getting my act together in regard to women--have I had another one like it.
I was aware of the statement by Edgar Cayce (one of the greatest psychic talents of all times) that "Mind is the builder and that which we think upon may become crimes or miracles. For thoughts are things and as their currents run through the environs of an entity's experience these become barriers or steppingstones, dependent upon the manner in which these are laid, as it were." (Reading 906-3) I was also aware of the scriptural passage which says that as a man "thinketh in his heart, so is he." (Proberbs 23:7) Moreover, I was aware that the ancient world was destroyed by a flood because "God saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually." (Genesis 6:5) But all of that really did not register with me until that fateful day when I found myself standing in enough gasoline, had it ignited, to have easily burnt me to a crisp.
That was the sign I was looking for, and that is my answer to anyone who wonders whether or not--as some contend--fantasy violence against women is harmless.
Just because a certain type of behavior or ideation turns us on does not necessarily mean that we should indulge in it. A pyromaniac is a person who gets turned on by setting things on fire. Does that give him or her a license to act upon those desires? Of course not. Is it in his or her best interest to do so? No way. The same is true of an addiction to real and/or fantasy violence against women. If you are ready for a change, now is the time to do something about it. And remember this: "God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap." (Galatians 6:7) And "God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil." (Ecclesiastes 12:14)
There's a saying in AA to the effect that a
person can't overcome their addiction to
alcohol until they "hit bottom." In terms of my particular fetish, I hit bottom when I got off on a picture at a certain website that showed a woman tied to a tree with a bunch of arrows sticking in her. I said to myself, "This is sick. I'M sick." And, at that point, I went for help--to the Lord, and He graciously and miraculously set me free. There's no possible way that I could have defeated this addiction in my own strength. My "Higher Power" is what did it, and I give Him all the glory. He can do the very same thing for you, if you sincerely desire it and earnestly seek His help, for there's nothing too hard for Him!
This site features an eBook designed to help people overcome an addiction to Internet pornography, and many of the same principles apply to overcoming an addiction to real and/or fantasy violence against women:
For information about a technique based on acupuncture that has shown definite promise in treating fetishes, visit
If you have questions, comments, or prayer requests, please feel free to contact me at
For additional information about me, visit
Thanks, and have a great day!
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