Pamela's Home Page
Thank you for visiting my new web page. This is a work in progress and I will be adding more information about me, what matters most in my life and what I seek in my Love/ my Hero/ my life mate and eventually my husband. Further down this page are some "Match.com" test results that will tell you a bit about me and some of the qualities I seek in my quest for my Hero. This information is provided as a way for you to get to know more about me, to see if we resonate in more area’s than not, and as a means to begin to see if we share common values, interests, goals, and life styles, which are very important factors to be added to the ever-important “Chemistry, Attraction & Sensual ” factors which are best determined in a face-to face meeting.
It is a bit like finding a needle in a haystack so I believe the more we know about each other the better chance we have find that person we want to spend the rest of our lives with. I hope to add a series of simple questions later that you could complete
so that I may also learn more about you.
Basic Stats:
5’2, eyes of blue, blond too
Name Pamela Marie B
Birthday Oct. 12, 1949 (and a Libra all the way)
Born in Bishop, CA (near Mammoth Mt)
Where I live Scottsdale, AZ (when I am home that is)
Divorced over 4 years
General Philosophy and thoughts on Life:
We are spiritual beings having a human experience, not the other way around. Each day is a gift to be treasured and spent wisely for we do not have an opportunity to ever get that time back again. I try to eliminate negativity from my life and keep and surround myself with people who look for solutions and for the good in any situation. I choose to live with no regrets and to try to learn my lessons from those setbacks that are a part of everyone's life, don't hold grudges or point blame, and take full responsibility for who I am, the good the bad and the ugly.
I have learned the "only way out is through" and that our relationships are the most precious treasures and valued assets that we have in life.
My Career:
My current career is as an RVP, Insurance for a very large Fortune 500 company. I travel over 8 western states as a coach, mentor, and wholesaler to top producing financial advisors. I have been fairly successful on my career path, but I do not wish it to be the focus of my life now that my kids are raised and gone. My desire is to find my Hero, share our life together with more time spent together than not, and not each of us out on our separate career paths. I would happily trade my Corporate Role for that of being life mate to my love and being there for him, though I would always desire to have some type of work and be involved in some of my favorite charities. My desire is to also get back in touch with my creative side, and working on my life long goal of writing, speaking and being a life coach about creating balance in one's life. To teach others that Money is only one of the currencies in life.
About My Family:
The light of my life are my family which consists of my two grown children, Kristen 29, pediatric nurse, married, my two ID twin grandson's, Caleb and Kyle who are 2.5 years old. They live n So. Calif; and my son Joel, 27, single BS in Business and marketing and BS in IT, lives in Vancouver, WA. I have one sister, 3.5 years older, who is married and lives in Salt Lake City, UT. My parents are both deceased, Daddy from a private plane crash in 1973, Mama of natural causes in 1994.
Hobbies I Enjoy:
I love International Travel for pleasure, and seek to explore much more of the world with my love, as well as many quiet evenings at home together. I enjoy cooking, and entertaining at home with a small group of close friends. I love the Arts, including theater, art galleries, concerts and museums. I enjoy fine dining, wine tasting, spas, and anything near or on the water. I love dancing, but could brush up on some lessons. I used to snow ski and would love to take it up again. I enjoy tennis and golf but my busy life doesn't allow me much time to work on my games. I would rather read a book than watch TV.I love photography (I was a photo/journalist major) and would love to spend more time in that area. Music is always in my world, and I love almost all kinds of music with the exception of Hard Acid Rock, Rap or Country can be taken only in small doses. I love soft lights and candles, and enjoying the outdoors as much as possible.
The Match Attraction Test Results about me.
Who I am
A rising star
You're a woman with a very balanced personality and lifestyle. You believe in making room in life to relax, think, and have fun. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Love is the same way. You know what real love feels like and you'll accept no imitations! You pride yourself on not being the "typical woman." You're more honest and straightforward than most women. But just because you don't "wear your heart on your sleeve" doesn't mean you lack deep feelings. In fact, you're deeply committed to your loved ones and the causes you believe in. Women as truly balanced as you are very rare.
What's dating all about to you?
Finding a loving relationship is a mission for you. You have clear goals and even a timeline in mind. Falling in love is an especially magical experience. You're suddenly free from the rules and thinking that guide your life. You usually keep your feelings and life under control. But remember, the bigger the dam, the bigger the flood when it breaks!
How unique is your type?
Your personality profile is similar to a number of women your age. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken the test, about 33.5% (or 1 in 3 women) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.
Quirks men notice
Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Because you're a private person, it's especially important that you find a partner who understands.
· You have a pretty even-tempered personality and may not have any especially annoying or quirky habits. Of course, seeming to be "perfect" could be seen as a flaw by some, in which case you may just want to pretend to have a bad habit!
Do men like your type?
35% of men are generally attracted to your personality type. 6% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.
Who You're Looking For
He'll be an enigma
You're looking for a very balanced man. He'll have clear goals in life without being a dreamer. You'll both enjoy going out with friends but also love spending quiet times together. He'll manage to balance an objective and rational side with a very compassionate and caring side. On top of that, he'll be a fun and free spirit but still do what he promises and show up on time. Sound too good to be true? Men who are truly balanced like this are rare, but they do exist and would be an excellent fit for you.
Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including:
Looking at the glass as half full. Enjoying a diverse range of interests. Living life in a manner that adds value and that you feel like you are making a contribution and a difference to society.
Number of men your type
Men with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken this test, only 6% (or 1 in 17 men) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.
However, there's a larger group, 25% (or 1 in 4 men), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below.
About two-thirds (69%) of the men have at least some of the traits you find attractive.
But you'd have a negative reaction to 31% (or 1 in 3 men), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.
Finding someone like you
You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. The qualities you find attractive (and unattractive) in men suggest you would certainly be happier with a man who's more like you.
· No very strong opposites were detected, which suggests that you are most attracted to men who are very similar to you. This is good news since similar couples tend to stay together longer.
Quirks you can tolerate
The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a man who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" man:
· You can get frustrated by his lack of input on decisions. Typically you're left alone to make decisions about what to do, where to go, etc. But most of the time the balance between you helps things go very smoothly.
· There will be days when you think he's simply "too happy" all the time. Doesn't anything get him down? Is he human?
Downside of your "ideal"
In addition to his quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, his quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:
· Because you're most attracted to men with balanced personalities, no troubling differences were noted. Nevertheless, remember that too much similarity can lead to conflict as well, especially when problems call for very different perspectives or actions.
Deal breakers
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the men you're looking for, but there are types of men you clearly do NOT like. Men's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:
· Men who wait until the last minute to make plans (for weekend fun, for example) and even seem to resist your attempts to plan activities ahead. Men who are not truthful. Men who have a drinking problem.
Trade-offs you'll face
Good Qualities Challenging Qualities
Tries to balance spending time with a few close friends and going out with a big group of friends. Given the demands of family, friends, and activities, it's hard to find time alone together.
Tries to balance a creative and imaginative side, with "real world" pragmatics about what you can and cannot do. Promising ideas are often dropped if they don't succeed right away.
Tries to balance an objective view of problems with compassion for the people and feelings involved. Competing drives from your rational vs. compassionate points of view can stand in the way of making decisions.
Tries to be decisive, but still not rush into anything.
How much attention is given to problems and how decisions get made seems unpredictable.
Sex
Sizzling sex life
As you probably know, you have a higher sex drive than most! Given your natural creativity, you're especially talented at making even the "basics" seem new and erotic.
Among women your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 6 women (16%).
Is he sexually compatible?
You're looking for someone who really enjoys the "basics" sexually. You value the quality of sex, even if it means the quantity or frequency of sex is lower than you'd like.
What's ahead for you sexually?
If you end up with a man less sexually charged than you, you'll have two options: open up your partner's "wild," sexual side or settle into a relationship with less sex, but more affection. Having less sex would be challenging for you. Making love offers a rare opportunity to "get out of your head" and stop thinking so much. Focusing on the quality of your sex, rather than quantity, may be one solution. Fortunately, you bring the natural skill of problem solving to the relationship and won't be shy in talking with your partner. A good man will understand the importance of sex for you and be willing to meet you half way.
Attraction Science
What is personality?
Personality is the set of traits and characteristics that make each of us unique yet relatively stable and consistent over time.
- People see and interpret the world differently.
- They want different things.
- They make decisions differently.
- They get excited and energized by different situations.
- They structure their careers, social life, and private time in different ways.
What does personality have to do with attraction?
The way in which people are similar or different in personality strongly affects their attraction to one another. Two people with similar values are more likely to become (and stay) friends or a couple, indeed part of compatibility is having "common ground." However, for many people, compatibility may also involve a balance between each other's quirks and differences.
Where did the test come from?
The test you just took is the most scientifically grounded and customized personality assessment on the Internet. It's a "smart" test because it can tailor specific questions to you based on your earlier choices so no one gets exactly the same questions. The content of the tests and the game-like way the choices were presented are the result of over 15 years of research by the scientists at weAttract.com, Inc.
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