I had studied the teachings of Pir Vilayat and his father Hazarat Inayat Khan Chisti when the opportunity came to be a nurse for an upcoming meditation camp in Florida. During the camp I took initiation with Pir Vilayat and the Sufi Order Of The West...I was given the name "Habiba."
Pir Vilayat said
"Counseling is very fashionable these days. We all think we know better how to run other people's lives than they do. Like the Backseat Driver. Yet something may be ignited in a Soul through intercommunication with others. When one is on tenderhooks about just those very things that are desperately meaningful to him at the time, if he meets with loving concern and sharing from another himself in whom he may see aspects of himself reflected in that stupendous mirroring process whereby each fraction of the Universe communicates with the whole by communicating with each other.
It is only the LOVE generated in finding oneself in each other or each other in oneself that makes for the kind of understanding that can alter a life."

"It is only out of one's love for that person and which lies beyond his or her personality in place and time that it is at all possible to understand another."

from the book TOWARDS THE ONE.