Life With Him

I am the WIFE of the HUSBAND you have been flirting or cybering with, NAMES will not be used to protect MY children, but if you have recived this ULR you know who he is. READ THIS IN FULL OR NEVER DARKEN MY SCREEN WITH YOUR WORDS AGAIN !!!!

In June of 1982 I met him while looking for my brother. His 1st exwife is my brother's sister-in-law ( My sister-in-law's sister ). My family USE to joke that they loved him so much they had to have their only daughter marry him to keep him in the family. I fell in love with him very deeply. I was 18, just broke up with a very abusive boyfriend, and had lost the love of my life 1 year and 2 months prior. He seemed to be everything I needed in my life. He treated me great for a while. He had been abandoned by his wife and was raising 2 preasious babes ages 3.5 years and 18 months with the help of his loving elderly mother. He said GOD had sent me to him. A month later I had to have surgery and he was right there by my side even when my family wasn't. HE made me feel great. We were told by my doctors that I had a 99% chance of never having my own children. A few days later he perposed to me in the hospital's chappel. That was July 1982.

March 1983 we married in a lovely church surounded by family and friends. A month later the baby the doctors said we would never have was born. Though it was an extremely rough pregantcy, hospitalized 13 times, we finally had our bundel of joy. And Jack seemed to love her as he did the other two even though she wasn't the boy he wanted. We had concived 6 other times together, but always lost them in miscarrage. Things were good for about a year.

THEN one day I was told to PROVE my love and if I didn't I would loose my husband, the girls I was raising from his first marriage, AND the dauther we had together since he got his 1st two he was positive he would get mine too. To PROVE my love I was to follow through with a statement I had made a summer earlier while we were dating and watching an x-rated movie at a former drive-in movie theater. There was a 3some going on. He asked me while fooling around with me " Would you ever do that for me? " and being so turned on and wanting him to make love to me I said YES someday. We then made love.

I NEVER dreamed we would actually be doing something like that, AND I never dearmed he would EVER put it to me in that manner. October 1993 I was ordered into a SEMI tractor with him and a HOOKER, I was scared as hell. Not knowing that he would do to me if I tried to flee and IF the cops would bust her on that night and help me. I cried as he pinned me down and she worked on my lower parts and gagged as she sat on my face. All the while him telling me it wouldn't stop till I DID IT RIGHT. Stuff like that continued until we seperated Febuary 1984.

I was kicked out into the snow for refusing that life style. I took my daughter and ended up at a shelter house for abused women. I got on my feet and continued to raise the two older girls. They were with me more than him. He then promissed it would NEVER happen again and have the girls beg for me to go home. So in May I did.

By fall we were members of a swingers club. I was to be the good wifie and do as told. We continued that lifestyle till winter of 1989 when a car accident put me out of comission. BUT prior to that in Feb 1987 I became pregnent from a man I had fallen in love with. He started as a friend, someone who I told so IF my husband desided to kill me my parents could know the truth. He was there to support me while my husband was chaceing hookers and getting oral sex in parkinglots. BUT I was hurting and lonely and needed someone too. My so called HUSBAND had agreed to raise the baby as his making my lover very angry. But it would have worked out fine had my hisband taken me to the hospital when I thought I was starting labor instead of DEMANDING sex. My son was still born as 3 months premature. But I am sure it was GOD's will not to bring another baby into that hate and turmoil. I developed overian cancer shortly after. I reckon that was my punishment for allowing my life to turn out this way.

After my car accident we moved around a bit. While we lived in Tennessee he got into party lines and phone sex very heavely. He met this girl on a line who CLAMED to be a 100 pound babe that was being abused by her boyfriend. We drove an hour to pick her up at the bus station. She was 270 pounds and I laughed my ass off. On the way home I stopped at a fabric shop to get fabric to make clother for my girls. They insisted on waiting in the car. About 10 mins. later the manager anounced over the innercom for the owner of my car to come to the front registers. She then told me another customer had reported they were having sex in my car. I paid for my items turned red and took the two to my home. He tried his damnedest to forse the 2 of us together and when that didn't work he had sex with her while I watched TV in the next room. The next day she pulled a carving knife on my daughter and said "I am your dad's woman NOW and you do as I say". I sent the kids next door and went to the police and told him everything. They removed her from our home that night. She ended up in a homeless shelter. That was January 1994.

In March 1994 he was offered a job in Indiana I insisted he go without us and if we held together we would follow that summer. He insisted we be there the 1st of June or I would have to take our middle one and leave her. ( Our oldest had been living with her mother then his cusin at that time ). Our middle one begged me to go too. She didn't want to be without me or her younger sister. So I moved us to Indiana. He complained because he had to help unload the U-Hall so I had to round up old friends to help. But on the way home our middle one asked me to adopt her so this could NEVER happen to us again. Her adoption was final Febuary 1996.

November of that year he requested a friend of ours come with her children for the weekend. What could happen with a house full of kids? A threesome! Out of fear of him having the adoption resended before my year was up I agreed. Before I knew it I was tied and they were doing as they wished. The female used a screw driver that had been left on my nightstand as a sex toy on my. I bit my husband to get away from them, he HIT me and I twisted, kicked and turned...... I was finally free standing in my bathroom naked with blood gushing down my legs. My middle daughter was home, she helped me dress and get out of there. ALL HE WOULD SAY WAS " ______ Don't DO THIS TO US " That started the END of US. From that point he became heavly involved in cybersex. After he met on line what would be his 3rd wife things between us became more and more voilent.

In Febuary 1996 he was cybering in our livingroom I shut the computer off on him and he jumpped up and took a swing at me. Our youngest got between us. He punched her in the gut so hard it ruptured her ovary. The doctor treated her for adominal muscel damage but never thought there was internal damage. Surgery was done 2 months later to save it and stop her internal bleading.

The very next day i got home and his things were on the pourch, our middle one was crying. I tried to comfort her assuming HE had put his things out and was planning on comming back to get them. NOPE it was our daughter who had done that. She had pulled her back as some of the things were VERY heavy. When HE got home from work SHE told him " Dad I love you but it is time for you to go" YES it was far past time.

Many things happened with our children after that. Even something very horid. But HE would NEVER help them. NONE of them. I DIVORCED him on grounds of adultry and the judge granted it. That was September 1996. He married his cyberwhore 3 days after the judge signed the papers.

BY THE WAY the ruleing was that CYBERSEX and PHONESEX was as much adultry as an affair. IF YOU ARE MARRIED IT IS ADULTRY TO HAVE SEXUAL CONTACT IN WRITTING, ON PHONE, OR IN PERSON.

My girls and I were getting our lives straight and I had a wonderful high paying job. But in November 1997 I fell and hit my head and hurt my back and neck so my career advancement was halted. We had not heard a word from HIM in a VERY LONG TIME. Oldest had joined the service, and 2 younger ones and I were preping for my transfer to another state.

On Febuary 15th, 1:30 A.M., 1998 HE called saying he had been kicked out by a wife that cheated as bad as he did. HE was crushed but came home. HE gave all 4 of us this crap that things happen for a reason and GOD had sent him back to us. With in the month she called him back to her for 1 ( ONE ) night to make her new lover jelious. Once again I let him come back to us. She KEPT him like a BOY TOY...... then moved on. SHE divorced HIM that summer.

HE WANTED TO REMARRY RIGHT AWAY. I told him NO because of his cybering.

A month later ( August 1998 ) we found out he had throat cancer. OUR girls worked over time to help him pay his downpayment for his surgery. We took damn good care of him. I agreed to remarry him in October 1999 if he would quit cybering. BUT he hid it and NEVER quit.

Our oldest returned from Korea January 1999..... We remarried January 23, 1999. Things were GREAT for THAT WEEKEND !!! I was hospitalized for 1 night on January 25th, his PHONESEX started back up that night because he was LONELY.

So since June 1982 we have been together 16 total years.
I DO NOT CONCENT TO THE CYBERING AND STILL CONSIDER IT ADULTRY.
FOR THOSE WHO THINK HE TAKES CARE OF ME THINK AGAIN, UNTIL OCTOBER 2000 I PAID THE BILLS....... HE HAS FINALLY STARTED JUST THIS MONTH DECEMBER 2000 WITH THE HELP OF OUR CHILDREN.

I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT HE DOES DUE TO A SPECIAL PROGRAM CALLED SPECTORSOFT CHECK IT OUT AT THE LINK INCLUDED.

I LOVE HIM VERY MUCH OR HE WOULDN'T BE HERE AND REALIZE HE HAS AN ADICTION TO WHAT HE DOES. IT IS HIS SICKNESS NOT ME BEING A BAD WIFE SO GET IT STRAIGHT.

~~~~~~~~ AND HE KNOWS ABOUT THIS PAGE AND HOW HE COULD HAVE PREVENTED YOU SEEING IT. ~~~~~~~~~~~
IF YOU ARE SEEING IT THAT MEANS HE PUT HIS CYBERWHORE BEFORE HIS FAMILY ONCE AGAIN.

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