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MOTHER & CHILDREN NEED YOUR HELP DESPERATLY
I never thought id end up doing something like this, but here I am. If it werent for the children I would be able to keep some of my pride and not have to ask perfect strangers for help, but as any of you parents out there know....we will do ANYTHING for our children. Here is our story, if after reading it you feel you can help us, it would mean the world to us.
Okay, well, where to start.....Last year, around May, I took my 3 children and myself out of an abusive relationship. The reason i had never left before was just for this reason, i didnt think id be able to make it on my own supporting the kids. My ex would always remind me of that fact whenever he felt i may actually get up and leave, and to tell you the truth i started to believe it, as is the case when you hear something over and over. Things got to a point last year where i had no chioce, i just had to go so i took my 3 children and left. I had no idea where i was going to go or what i was going to do, but at this point it really didnt matter, anywhere was better than where we were. As i had dreaded there was nowhere for us to go so i had to do the hardest thing ive ever had to do....separarte myself from my children ( 2 of them ). I sent my then 9 year old daughter with relatives in a different city, my then 1 year old had to go all the way across the country to California to stay with family and my then 14 year old son stayed with me in a closet sized room at someone we knows house ( there was room for one twin bed and a few folded up blankets on the floor so we each had somewhere to rest our heads ).
The children and i ended up being separated, in total, for about 3 months. It was a very hard 3 months and a day didnt go by that i wasnt in tears at one point during the day. The hardest day of them all was when my baby girl celebrated her 2nd birthday and i wasnt there with her :( it brings tears to my eyes still today just thinking back to that day. I spent the entire day on the front porch crying. I had to keep reminding myself that i was doing the right thing and that i was doing what i had to do to keep the children safe and prove "the ex" wrong, we WOULD make it....somehow. As time passed I was able to get a waitressing job working nights, an apartment and a junky, but drivable, car. Come September i was able to send for the children : ) What a happy day that was!! I was so happy to see them!! i cant even tell you the joy i felt that day! all of us together again, i thought i may suffocate them from hugging them so much! My then 2 year old baby girl had changed so much, it seemed, in just that short 3 months....her hair had grown, she had started using the potty and was saying simple words etc...my how much they change in a few short months huh? The scene at Logan Airport really should have been filmed. There i was looking and looking for her and i spotted them from behind, standing on the sidewalk, looking themselves for me : ) I tapped my daughter on the shoulder and she turned around and said HI MOMMA!!!!! and i picked her up in my arms, she wrapped her arms tight and just put her head down on my shoulder and said nothing, just layed there while i rocked her....again the tears are coming remembering that day :) (I dont mention the reunion with my then 9 year old daughter as much only due to the fact that she was only staying about a half hour away from me and i was able to see her basically whenever i wanted, i dont want you to think i favor the baby its just that i hadnt been able to see her AT ALL while she was gone).
There was one problem when the children came home, our apartment had been delayed for 2 weeks so we werent able to move in until then but someone let us stay in their camper for the 2 weeks and we eventually did end up in the apartment. Things seemed to be going well for some time but of course, as my life goes, they slowly started falling apart. I wont bore you with all of the details of each disaster ( id be writing 20 pages! but just the highlights of how i ended up where we are today ) First the car died, of all things the transmission. It was going to be over $500 to fix which was more than i paid for the car itself! then i lost my job, it was a family owned business and "family" needed a job so out i went. I was then put in the situation of no daycare AND no car with 3 kids...not a good combination. I search and search for affordable daycare, night jobs that are within walking distance ( im not in a very "safe" city so walking at night is NOT a good idea in the first place )etc.. What ive decided to do is try to get on public assistance, (something i was desperatly trying NOT to do), but i seem to be in a corner right now, if i dont do something soon well.........anyways, so far the phone has been disconnected, yesturday the gas was shut off ( hot water, stove and heat are gas ) and im behind 3 months in rent. Right now i feel like i am at the end of my rope, sometimes i feel like maybe "the ex" was right....i cant make it on my own??? I think that if i could just get on top of things id be alright. I could set aside SOMETHING each month towards a car and that would better my chances. The thing i worry about most right now is the rent. Trust me when i tell you i have searched every avenue for assistance with rent and/or utilities. Either the program has been "cut" or funding is gone, and now recently there have been more cuts. So, with nowhere else to turn here i am, putting up a website on a friends computer to ask America for help.....let me tell you, this is not a good feeling to have to do something like this but at this point i will do anything to keep me and the children from becoming homeless because that is the next step here.....homelessness. So here i sit, telling all of you our story and hoping that someone out there, or a combinaion of people out there, can help us. Like i said earlier, if i could just get on top of things and get a little money set aside we'd be able to make it. As things stand now there is no way id ever be able to catch up on 3 months rent and get the phone and gas turned back on. If there is anyone out there that would be willing to help us out could you please email me at DEBBIE332211@AOL.COM my friend has set this account up by using one of those "try aol free for 45 days" discs so after that time frame you will not be able to reach me threw that email address in which case you could send an email to PAULABR@COMCAST.NET and in the subject line just put "FOR DEBBIE" and she will hold on to it for me. What i am going to try to do is set up a paypal account but im not sure exactly how that works just yet, im not sure if you have to pay for it or if you need a bank account to have it so for now i will just communicate threw the email. If i am able to get a paypal account set up i will add it to this site. Even if you cannot help out i want to thank you for taking the time to read our story. If you are able to help out i want to take this time to thank you from the bottom of my heart and God bless you for having a heart big enough to be willing to help out a family you have never even met. My children would thank you as well if they knew i was doing this website but as of yet i havent told them about it and seriously doubt i will, i think it would hurt what little pride they have left. Again, thank you for taking the time to read our story and i pray that there are some people out there who are willing to help us out, i pray every day for a miracle that will help us to be able to keep our apartment etc.., maybe you are that miracle.
God Bless you all,
Debra
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