Success For You - Business & Life Transitions News
THOUGHTS FROM ADRIENNE
Dear Special Friends:
This is the time of the year for reflection and anticipation. We look back at the past year and all of the opportunities, challenges, and happenings. We think what we would like to happen in 2003. We may even make resolutions or promises to make certain things occur—stop smoking, lose weight, keep more in touch with friends, save more money, take that trip we have been putting off, make a major purchase or some other dream we would like to happen. We may even admit to ourselves that we have made the same promise last year and remember that we let life happen to us rather than making what we said we wanted to happen.. I read an article in the Journal of Clinical Psychology that stated, “36% of us break our New Year’s resolutions by the end of January.”
Making a resolution means deciding to change an aspect of life that has become a habit and a comfort zone. To do something different means making a dream we have happen no matter how uncomfortable it makes us. It means resisting going back to former behavior and what was the familiar. And because we are all creatures of habit, most of us like the known versus the unknown, which is uncharted territory and means making changes. Yet dreams or goals never occur if we do not make some kind of change.
So how do people make successful changes? What helps someone stick to a goal that produces changes but also supports a new way of doing things? Some ways of what makes successful changes are as follows:
Motivation to have things be different. It is not enough just to say I want to make a change. It takes a strong desire and willingness to work toward it. Achieving a goal may take time and a definite self-discipline.
Ability to look at ourselves and our habits and set goals to establish new ones. This means taking one step at a time to get where we want to be. No mountain was climbed in one giant leap.
Getting emotional support and advice to make our dream happen. This means not having to do something on our own, but letting others help us. Many people hire a personal trainer to help them with an exercise program; likewise, many people hire a personal or business coach to partner with them to help guide and support their dreams.
Spending the time to chart our progress. It always helps to look back and see how far we have come as we work toward our goals.
Celebrate the results. This is perhaps the easiest part. Enjoy the rewards!
Even taking one step toward a goal is significant. So if you have a dream or resolution for 2003, make it happen! Just think what it would mean for you.
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SO WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE ANYWAY?
I am often asked the difference between personal coaching and therapy. Actually, some times coaching supplements therapy but they are distinct in their emphasis and ways they lend support.
Therapy works best for people who are experiencing trauma, depression, loss, or anxiety that is long term. The therapist usually helps the client get in touch with what they are reacting to and the why’s and spends time on the past to help the client gain an equilibrium for the now so the client can plan for the future. Coaching takes the now and helps the client take responsibility for their life and goals to bring results. It is not that coaching does not look at who someone is, but that examining is to move the client onto the next phase of their life to achieve a stated goal (make more money, change careers, gain balance and focus, for examples).
Therapy is done in an office face to face with the trained professional. Its focus is on a problem faced by someone, often teaching new ways of coping. Coaching can be done directly, but is usually done on the phone. The focus is on dramatic advancements with the emphasis being on the client’s outcome and results by teaching the client new skills and resources for building and growing a business, career, or a life change. A coach encourages and requests proactive behavior based on the client’s values and desires.
The therapist-client relationship is an alliance totally related to the knowledge of the client’s personal issues to help the client cope more effectively. Coaching is an equal partnership, where the coach operates as a business partner to help the client achieve their desired results.
Success For You empowers both individuals and groups to achieve dreams and help make them a reality. You can define exactly what you want to change and get the support and suggestions necessary to help make any transition successful. To learn more feel free to contact me at the numbers shown on the bottom of the page, or e-mail me at Adrienne2171@aol.com. I offer a 45 minute complimentary session to see if coaching is for you.
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